An Update on Helpful, Effective Thinking for 2023

Please fill in the blanks with the first thought that comes to mind.

I. Become aware of one’s thinking about life.

“Life should provide __________. Life should have __________. If life doesn’t provide or have __________, life is not as valuable as it would otherwise have been.”

Become aware of the interrelationship between what happens, thoughts that are belief-based or wish-based, thoughts that are fact-based, and feelings.

“When __________ happened, I thought it shouldn’t have happened because life shouldn’t be that way. I shouldn’t have to __________. Since life should have __________and should provide __________. I felt betrayed because I trusted life to be the way I believed it was and should be. I felt disappointed in myself, in others, and in my life.”

II. Become aware of one’s thinking about one’s self.

“I should (circle) feel/think/do/have __________. If I don’t, I am not as valuable as I would otherwise have been. If I am not as valuable as I could be, I will not be adequately appreciated or loved. If I am not adequately appreciated or loved, I experience unbearable pain.”

Again, become aware of the interrelationship between what happens, thoughts that are belief-based or wish-based, thoughts that are fact-based, and feelings.

“When ______ happened to me, I thought it shouldn’t have happened. I thought that if I had said or done something different, or were different, it wouldn’t have happened. I believe I am responsible for how people feel, think, act, and are doing and, thus, I failed. This made it my fault and I was to blame. I judged myself as incorrect, incompetent, and inadequate. I felt ashamed of myself. From these reprimands, I felt overwhelmed with pain.”

III. Are the thoughts realistic?

“Reality is complex. Some aspects of my thoughts are realistic; some aspects aren’t. If I imagine a pie chart:

In January 2020, I estimate ____% of my thoughts were realistic and _____% were unrealistic.

Today, in 2023, I estimate ____% of my thoughts are realistic and _____% are unrealistic.”

IV. How can I help myself?

  • I can see reality as it is.
  • Within reality, realism gives me power. I neither idealize nor vilify, not myself, others, institutions, or the world.
  • I am real. I am not composed of other people’s beliefs, expectations, needs, and wants. I am not the victim of life, of how I was born, of how I was raised, or of what’s happened to me. I co-travel with my traits and my history.
  • As a result of making heroic, conscious choices to see reality as it is, I can identify problems and create solutions. I can adjust, adapt, and accept as needed.
  • I can become aware of self-judgment and replace it with
    self-kindness. Prolonged, inner states of activated intensity, and of under-activated despondency, frequently result from two sources: harsh self-judgment and envisioning being harshly judged by others.
  • As a result of awareness and self-kindness, I can use my inner dialogue to regulate my emotions at will.
  • Although I wish I had one or more people to appreciate and love me adequately, I see that, even if I did, during most of the 168 hours of each week, I’m on the job solo. I’m responsible for my inner state.
  • I may have some influence but cannot cause what human adults feel, think, want, say, or do. I am not causal. Why not? Human adults are separate, independent, autonomous beings who choose their own words and actions.
  • Unless I attempt to violate their independence by using emotional, relational, financial, and/or sexual favors, or persuasion, manipulation, shame, coercion, and/or force, I co-travel with the decisions other humans make.
  • I appreciate and love myself for handling the joys and sorrows of the human condition. I can feel compassion for everyone, everywhere, for having to handle the same.

V. My primary tasks are:

  1. to discover and understand my values, strengths, preferences, interests, and priorities;
  2. to become aware of what I need and want;
  3. to identify unmet needs and unfulfilled aspirations;
  4. to estimate what’s likely and unlikely;
  5. to see that opposites can both be true, that most factors occur within the context of a continuum, not as all good or all bad;
  6. to derive strategies to help myself precisely with what
    I want to do, not with a) what I wish or want others to do, or
    b) what others want from me;
  7. to shift and re-shift my attention to my values and priorities;
  8. to do what I define as mine to do in the time I have.

VI. How else?

Given the broad goals of making a life for myself and being of service to others, given the constraints of 2023 and the uncertainties of the future, how else might I help myself?

VII. Clarity

To the tasks of being myself, of navigating the opportunities and hardships inherent to the human condition, in my situation, in these times:

The primary personal strength I bring is __________________.

The primary value powering my efforts is __________________.

The primary priority giving me direction is __________________.

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Therapy protocols derived before 2020 held a fundamental premise. People were free to take independent action on their own behalf.

In particular, cognitive theory celebrated human capability. Once individuals became aware of what they were feeling and thinking and directed their attention to reality-based thoughts, they could then build lives and relationships based on reality as perceived by logic, reason, and evidence.

For the past three years, I have heard an on-going note of distress in the narratives of many of the clients I met with online, in the thousands of voices I heard in the listening, watching, and reading I did during these years of isolation, and in my own inner experience.

Indeed, awareness, itself, can ease distress, regardless of the situation, even the most dire. This is the core of existential therapist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl’s premise. During the pandemic, surely, we had the time to become aware.

However, engagement in action and engagement with others are the mechanisms by which awareness is directed toward effective, skillful living. With limited opportunities to leave our dwellings and connect with people, the limits of current therapy protocols were exposed.

I posit that cognitive theory-based protocols need an update that emphasizes self-reliance. Why? Our ability to take action and to connect with others was truncated. The external was impossible. The internal was possible.

This post is an an imagining of the pandemic-informed worksheet that would be added to updated, 2023 editions of cognitive theory-based manuals, such as  Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD: A Comprehensive Manual by Patricia A. Resick, Candice M. Monson, and Kathleen M. Chard, Guillford Press, 2016.

At essence, this worksheet champions and fosters the powerfully kind and determined inner dialogue that sustains and guides when one is on one’s own.

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To explore and discover tools and insights related to the tasks, I use the term “awareness skills” and have them outlined in about 3,000 words here.

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Self-Help Guide for Reducing Trauma Symptoms

If I were only allowed two, plain-language sentences to explain what trauma symptoms are and how to reduce them, these would be the sentences I would offer.

  1. Trauma symptoms result from the brain being overworked from being alarmed at too high of a level for too long.
  2. Reduction in trauma symptoms requires “un-alarming” the brain to a low enough level, for a long enough time, for it to restore to stable functioning.

Using one's own mind and heart as tools

I’m anticipating that people who have found this post may have already consulted sources like the National Institute for Mental Health or the National Center for PTSD. They may hypothesize that the troubling feelings, thoughts, or actions they are having might be considered symptoms of trauma-related disorders.

[One can only view official diagnostic criteria through purchase of access to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM–5).]

One of the leading cognitive theory-based counseling protocols for trauma disorders is cognitive processing therapy (CPT). This self-help guide is founded in CPT, with additions as noted below.

Becoming one’s own therapy provider

For various reasons, including privacy and safety concerns, or lack of access and resources, people with distressing symptoms may have come to the conclusion that they need to figure out how to become their own trauma therapists.

Auspiciously, the top, evidence-based counseling protocols for reducing trauma symptoms are based in cognitive theory. A premise of cognitive theory is that individuals learn and practice skills with a mentor, then take over as their own mentors, coaches, and cognitive therapists. One of the most heroic examples of this exchange is by the women of the Congo, many of whom could neither read nor write, who worked together using CPT in 2013.

Validating the idea that trauma therapy can be effectively self-administered, according to a CPT training I attended, a self-help CPT manual is in development.

About this guide

For people in need right now, during a period of intense, global distress, whose only access to counseling for trauma may be a mobile phone, I have attempted to, in plain language, using straight text:

  1. Synthesize and distill the findings of research on what reduces trauma symptoms for most people, most of the time, most efficiently, better than other ways, and better than doing nothing.
  2. Add pandemic-urgent elements to cognitive processing therapy (CPT) from other other cognitive theory-based protocols, including cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). These additions have been found to be helpful to clients doing trauma therapy while undergoing the stressors of lockdown and the threat of severe illness or death during the COVID-19 pandemic.
  3. Add the hard-won insights we gained from attempting to address trauma symptoms while isolated at home, from the distance of online-only counseling sessions.
  4. Add case study data, practice wisdom, and personal wisdom from clients’ and my own experiences with engaging in therapy for trauma.

Caveats

Writing plainly and simply about recovery from trauma is difficult. This guide may not be presented as systematically and thoroughly as some might need. Self-help may be insufficient. At this time, research data is insufficient to back self-help as an evidence-based treatment for trauma symptoms. For urgent or persistent trauma symptoms, contact a health care professional.

About this post

I consider this post 1) a summary of what might be helpful, and 2) a table of contents linking to previous and forthcoming, non-sequential, trauma-related posts and pages on this site. I have attempted to be as brief and concise as possible and to use as few clinical terms as possible. I will continue to update it.

Again, if at all possible, consult a qualified, licensed counselor for individualized guidance and support.

To get started

First, consider taking one or more of these online assessments to establish a baseline for your symptoms. Then continue to take them as you begin to serve as your own cognitive therapist. These scores can create tangible data by which you can track your progress and show areas of strength and challenge. Taking any assessment comes with the caveat that expert interpretation should be done by an expert.

CPT uses these assessments:

Other assessments in the public domain that might prove of interest:

  • PC-PTSD-5. Assessment and explanation here.
  • ACE Score. Assessment and explanation here.
  • If you have interest in other online assessments, these from the American Psychiatric Association are in the public domain. The Society of Clinical Psychology maintains a list of assessments in the public domain. Again, consult an expert for expert evaluation.

Next, familiarize yourself with stressor-related and trauma disorders and what treats them. Consider one, some, or all of these.

Then, read Becoming One’s Own Cognitive Therapist.

Consider taking online training in CPT to learn CPT first-hand and to possibly pass the protocol onto others in need. Several trainings are listed on our main CPT page and are free or low-cost.

Now that we know the central role alarm plays in both developing and reducing trauma symptoms, let’s go about un-alarming our brains.

Self-administering CPT

Option 1: Comprehensive. Uses the CPT therapists’ manual.

CPT is structured to consist of 12 sessions. The first 7 sessions are considered fundamental and the last 5 offer deeper insights. Some people experience noteworthy symptom reduction in a few sessions – termed “early responders” – and complete the protocol in fewer than 12 sessions.

Although Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD: A Comprehensive Manual (hereafter referred to as “CPT manual”) is intended for therapists, portions are highly readable and can be used to self-administer the protocol. Sections noted below can be found by turning pages in the print version or scrolling through the electronic version.

  1. Read “A Biological Model of PTSD and CPT,” pages 10-13.
  2. Read “Describing Cognitive Theory,” pages 89-93.
  3. Follow the directions in this CPT session outline.

Beginning with Chapter 5, which introduces Session 1, and subsequent chapters:

  1. Read the goals for each session.
  2. Read the sections in quotations. These are sample scripts for therapists which conveniently and succinctly summarize the central concepts of the session.
  3. Read the dialogues between CLIENT and THERAPIST which provide examples of the crucial concepts highlighted in that session.
  4. Study the handouts, usually collected at the end of each chapter.
  5. Complete the “Practice Assignment after Session ___ of CPT,” to practice specific cognitive skills.
  6. Retake assessments to track progress.

Consider using these posts to orient yourself to counseling for trauma, or to review concepts you have covered.

Option 2: Streamlined. 

    1. Study the CPT session outline.
    2. Complete the components requested in the CPT session outline.
    3. Read and reread posts in the bulleted list above. They are densely written, each word chosen to convey as much information as possible without straying into simplicity or error. Do the exercises to which they link.
    4. Use this Expanded ABC Worksheet.
    5. Retake assessments to track progress.
    6. If you find this method inadequate, consider using the comprehensive option.

Option 3: Fast track.

Trauma symptoms are caused by the brain being too alarmed for too long to function stably. People with trauma symptoms frequently describe feeling as if their “brains are on fire.” This makes sense. Although an over-simplification, when people have trauma disorders, the emotion centers of the brain overwhelm the cognitive centers.

We don’t have mechanical ways of restoring cognitive centers. Medications for trauma symptoms are of limited assistance. To restore their brains to stable functioning and, thus, reduce trauma symptoms, people have to use cognitive skills – their own hearts and minds as tools – to ease the brain’s emotion centers and activate cognitive centers.

Since cognitive theory posits that thoughts cause feelings, logically, then, thoughts that cause alarm are the subject of interest. Surprisingly, beliefs about the way people should be, others should be, and the way the world should work unconsciously cause alarm. When people or situations aren’t as they’re believed they should be, this is experienced as a discordant, existential threat.

Since the brain evolved to handle reality as it is, approaching, acknowledging, and accepting reality and the human condition as they are – complex and dynamic, however, painful and sorrowful they might be – begins to restore the brain to stability.

Here’s a summary of the inner dialogue of a person using cognitive skills to ease emotion centers and activate cognitive centers. Most terms used are in the glossary and in other posts on this site.

“I am aware of an intense inner state. Let me take back my consciousness. What am I feeling? Which are my primary feelings and which are my secondary feelings? Let me feel my natural, human, primary feelings. My brain is designed to handle them. They will come and they will go. Now, what are my secondary feelings, caused by thoughts? What thoughts am I thinking to cause these feelings? Of those thoughts, which are beliefs? Which are facts? Let me follow the facts. Based on the facts, and my own values and priorities, what would be the most realistic and helpful thing to say or do next – or not say or not do?”

Use that inner dialogue over and over again. Retake assessments. Consult yourself as your own cognitive therapist. If your self-help efforts are not producing desired results, it would be realistic and helpful to consult experts who may be of assistance.

Finally

I share openly that I developed trauma symptoms after experiences of school and community violence in 2007. I worked with two psychologists using cognitive theory-based protocols, achieved remission from trauma symptoms, and became a rostered provider of cognitive processing therapy in 2019. In 2021, I experienced re-emergence of some of those symptoms, including involuntary ones. I consulted a psychologist, reviewed my training, wrote about the re-emergence of trauma symptoms here, and wrote this, the index page of a guide to help people reduce trauma symptoms.

As Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., puts it in her DBT Skills Training Manual, “People may not have caused all their own problems, but they have to solve them anyway.” I am sorry for you and for me that we have experienced these hardships. AND. We can help ourselves continue on, living as richly and consciously as we can in the time we have.

Given the intense distress that trauma symptoms can cause, in order to reduce people’s suffering, urgency is merited. I’ve imagined myself inside a train at the window. A distressed person on the platform, at the last minute, calls out to me, “I have trauma symptoms! How can I help myself?!” I’m able to answer with only a few sentences as the train pulls away. What would I say?

“You are not what happened to you! And symptoms aren’t your fault! They’re a brain thing! You’ve got to un-alarm your brain! Thoughts cause feelings! Look at the content of your thoughts. Be humane and merciful. Do not judge. Do NOT impose rules. Follow facts! Be kind!”

CPT resources

Specific posts on this site that may be of interest (also linked to above)

Views expressed are the author’s own. This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or professional advice. Consult a qualified health care professional for personalized medical and professional advice.

Addressing the Return of Trauma Symptoms

Colleagues, clients, and I are talking about the return of trauma symptoms in people who have achieved remission from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It’s possible that pandemic conditions have strained brain resources that kept people in remission. Beyond pandemic languishing, to describe this current push-pull of stressors, Amy Cuddy, Ph.D., and other thinkers are using the term pandemic flux syndrome. Counselors and clients, together, are working on how to return to remission from trauma symptoms during these unprecedented times.

Let’s review what we know about trauma, trauma symptoms, and how to reduce them.

(A comprehensive explanation of trauma and its treatment are beyond the scope of this post. Information from the National Institute for Mental Health and National Center for PTSD may be helpful.)

At essence, the cause of trauma symptoms is the brain being alarmed too high, for too long, for it to recover its stable functioning.

Post-traumatic alarm is caused by:

  1. novel experiences of danger, threat, and shock,
  2. residual physiological and psychological effects from having experienced the original trauma(s),
  3. involuntary trauma symptoms,
  4. lack of comfort and help with thinking, and
  5. ways of thinking that perpetuate alarm.

At essence, to reduce trauma symptoms, a person has to “un-alarm” their brain for long enough for the brain to recover stable functioning.

In the list of the causes of alarm, although #1 is part of the human condition, and #2 is permanent, #3, symptoms, can dissipate if a person can help themselves with #4 and #5 as their own cognitive therapist.

Unfortunately, this process doesn’t:

  • make “un-happen” what happened.
  • result in instantaneous relief from an act of determination or will.
  • remove feelings, including those judged as “negative.”
  • disarm normal human brain functioning. Remembering – both consciously and involuntarily – and feeling activated will continue to happen.

Beginning with #4, after offering kindness and comfort to oneself, one heads directly for #5, ways of thinking.

Here are some initial questions to ask oneself:

1. Although I may not want this to be true and I may be somewhat numbed to it, what is going on in my life that logically and understandably might be alarming me? This could be one thing or a list of things. Although stressors related to the pandemic may be on my list, let me go deeper. What else might be alarming me?

2. Thinking “This shouldn’t be this way,” can alarm the brain. About what, even in the smallest way, am I thinking, “This shouldn’t be like this” or “This shouldn’t have happened”?

3. Thinking “This is too much for me,” can alarm the brain. Am I thinking, perhaps about some things at some times, “This is too much for me”? About what?

4. Thinking “I should be or do _____” or “I shouldn’t be or do ______” can alarm the brain. About what am I thinking “I should” or “I shouldn’t” about myself or my efforts? About what am I thinking “They should” or “They shouldn’t” about others and their actions?

5. Feeling upset or outraged at others can alarm the brain. Sometimes outrage at injustice is merited. Sometimes, I can rage at others or despair over myself or others as an outpouring of an inner sense of powerlessness, helplessness, and lack of control. Am I in danger and need to extricate myself? If I am not in danger, about what am I feeling a lack of power and control?

6. The brain knows “tough love” is an alarming oxymoron. Am I using “tough love” on myself? About what am I criticizing and judging myself? By what criteria am I measuring and evaluating myself and coming up short? Are these criteria realistic and helpful, aligned with my values and priorities, or are they cruel rules?

7. What facts and realities about myself, others, the human condition, and the way the world works am I avoiding? What do I need to approach, see as it is, acknowledge and/or accept, address with my cognitive skills, and, thus, help “un-alarm” my brain and ease my distress?

Of the 100 billion humans estimated to have ever lived, we can’t know what portion of them experienced trauma, or developed trauma symptoms. Over half of U.S. women and 60% of U.S. men have experienced at least one traumatic event in their lives. In my estimation, those who attempt to reverse the very brain changes that result in trauma symptoms are no less than heroic.

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The content of this post is informed by cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), cognitive processing therapy (CPT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), positive psychology, and other therapeutic modalities.

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Becoming One’s Own Cognitive Therapist

A fundamental premise of cognitive theory-based counseling protocols is that, once people learn cognitive skills, they can take over as their own cognitive therapists.

What does this mean exactly?

A cognitive therapist uses the research-backed elements of cognitive theory to help a person acquire cognitive skills.

“Cognitive theories are characterized by their focus on the idea that how and what people think leads to the arousal of emotions and that certain thoughts and beliefs lead to disturbed emotions and behaviors and others lead to healthy emotions and adaptive behavior.”
DiGiuseppe, et al., 2016

A person with cognitive skills, in the context of self-kindness, becomes aware of having felt, thought, spoken, or acted automatically, regains consciousness, deliberately frees themselves from getting boxed in by beliefs about what one should or shouldn’t be and do in favor of making principle-based decisions, sees reality as it is, and makes helpful, criteria-based choices about what to say or do next – or not say or not do.

Boxed in by beliefs

“Take back your consciousness.”

At essence, a person with cognitive skills can become aware of when they need to say to themselves, “Take back your consciousness.”

People who seek counseling often realize that ways of feeling, thinking, speaking, acting, studying, working, and/or relating are interfering with their own intentions for themselves, and with their ability to relate effectively with themselves, partners, children, family members, instructors, co-workers, and/or community members.

Very often, these ways are unconscious and automatic, born of temperament, brain traits (such as sensory sensitivity or attention variations), childhood or later trauma, family of origin challenges, and learnings from families, communities, education, culture, nationhood, and the media.

A conscious self-embrace

Use of a set of research-informed counseling protocols – categorized as applied “cognitive theory” – can help people use awareness of their thoughts and feelings to identify these automatic ways, begin to see facts and realities as they are – however unwished-for they might be – assess probabilities, derive strategies, and make conscious choices based on their needs, wants, strengths, preferences, values, and priorities.

My work with clients is primarily informed by these cognitive theory-based counseling protocols: cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and cognitive processing therapy (CPT).

“Cognitive” can be considered a cold term, but cognitive-based counseling is anything but. The entirety of one’s feelings, thoughts, and experiences are courageously and deliberately honored and addressed. People map out what occurs, what’s in their hearts and on their minds, then use all that data to decide what would be the most realistic, helpful action to take. This meticulous examining is nothing short of heroic. Kindness, mercy, and bravery reign.

“Getting cognitive” also does not mean becoming robotic. One’s full humanity is seen, known, and appreciated. Reality is approached, not avoided. Reality is complex and dynamic; reality delivers unexpected shocks and sucker punches. Cognitive skills can’t undo what’s done, or make people “un-feel,” “un-think,” or “un-experience.” What they do is give people the power to help themselves through experience of all kinds, including hardships.

Self-kindness becomes direct rather than indirect. Rather than “giving oneself a break,” granting an indulgence, or engaging in a distraction, people can pause, use their attention, become deeply aware of what would be truly kind, and do that. With practice, self-kindness can feel moving, ecstatic, powerful, and peaceful, all at the same time.

Why become one’s own cognitive therapist and gain cognitive skills?

Even if only partial consciousness exists through ever-present stressors at home or work, immediately after shock or loss, after brutality or injury, or through congenital brain traits, accompanied by one’s consciousness, one can co-travel kindly and effectively with one’s experiences: inner and outer; past, present, future; kind or cruel; expected or unanticipated; desired or undesired.

In particular, a person can take back consciousness:

  • from despair;
  • from naturally and understandably feeling powerless, helpless, hopeless, victimized, overwhelmed, and in chaos by the facts of one’s existence: past traumas, past losses, the pandemic, memories, nightmares, symptoms, nearly automatic substance use, emotional and physical pain, and current incidents and situations;
  • from replaying a past event in hopes of figuring out what might have made it go differently;
  • from alarming and re-alarming one’s brain from replaying a past event;
  • from taking troubling experiences in short-term/working memory into deeper, long-term memory through repetition (a “flashcard effect”);
  • from attempting to anticipate, plan for, and script future events;
  • after having developed an intense inner state to regain cognitive functioning;
  • from learned actions intended to relieve intense inner states, such as use, overuse, or ill-use of substances – food, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, marijuana, prescribed and non-prescribed drugs – eating unintended foods and eating more than intended; purging; words and actions born of impulse, anger, and rage; many others.
  • after involuntary occurrence of intrusive memories, thoughts, and nightmares;
  • from attention going “there” instead of “here,” i.e. where it was intended to go and stay;
  • from symptoms and traits of disorders such as trauma and stress disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, attention deficit disorder, mood disorders, personality disorders, autism spectrum, and others.

Why take back one’s consciousness?

Outcomes. Simply put, people want to feel better and to do better. Based on decades of research, cognitive therapies help many people feel better and do better, much of the time, better than other therapies, and better than doing nothing.

Once one has one’s consciousness back, what does one do with it?

Co-travel. Co-travel with what is happening. Keep the self and one’s identity separate from one’s inner and/or outer experience. Operate from within one’s consciousness. State, for example, “I feel fear” rather than “I am afraid.”

Consider precise, person-centered language. Note the differences between “I am a person in remission from addiction” and “I am an addict.” Compare “I am a person who, at times, experiences anxiety” to “My anxiety is bothering me.”

How does one take back one’s consciousness?

Consider this sequence:

  1. Become aware of having a sense that something is a bit “off” and say to oneself, “Take back your consciousness.”
  2. Access the portion of one’s consciousness in which resides a) one’s inner wisdom and true self, b) awareness of this knowledge: one’s needs, wants, strengths, preferences, values, and priorities, and c) one’s cognitive skills.
  3. Engage self-kindness and banish belief-based self-judgment and self-criticism.
  4. Become aware of what one is feeling.
  5. Sort feelings into primary* and secondary** feelings.
  6. Kindly and humanely help oneself with primary feelings.
  7. Use secondary feelings as data about one’s thoughts. Ask, “What thought caused that feeling?”
  8. Identify thoughts as beliefs or facts.
  9. Shift one’s attention to thoughts about facts and reality.
  10. Comfort oneself if realities are painful or fervently wished otherwise.
  11. Using the criteria of one’s self-knowledge, values, and priorities for direction, imagine options, assess probabilities, then choose.
  12. Derive implementation strategies.
  13. Appreciate, acknowledge, and accept: “This is the best I can I think of with what I know at this time and with the resources I have.”
  14. Based on the above criteria, say or do – or don’t say and don’t do.
  15. Take back one’s consciousness again and again if any one of these occurs: second-guessing, self-criticism, self-judgment, repetitive thoughts (“noodling,” ruminating, listing), replaying past troubles, or anticipating future dire consequences.

Always, always practice self-kindness.

We are human, humans have extents and limits, reality is complex, and we each have such a short time on the planet to work things out. Kindness is merited.

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*Primary feelings are natural feelings that go along with being human and happen automatically without thought: mad, sad, glad, afraid, surprised, disgusted, alarmed (includes fight-flight-freeze response).

**Secondary feelings happen as a result of thoughts – often thoughts that are opinions, beliefs, or rules – that cause feelings of shame, guilt, humiliation, self-blame, mistaken other-blame, regret, rage, dread, panic, despair, nostalgia, jealousy, righteousness, vengeance, and “ideations,” i.e. intrusive thoughts or fantasies of harm to self or others. Secondary feelings that result from thoughts cause suffering through 1) escalating natural feelings, 2) causing painful feelings, 3) creating a sense of “no escape,” which can result in feelings of rage, helplessness, and hopelessness, 4) increased reactivity vs. conscious choice, and 5) creating troubled interactions with others.

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How Does One Recover from Trauma Using CPT?

One purpose of research is to determine what helps most people, most of the time, better than other ways, and better than nothing.

One of the most effective therapies found by research to help people regain freedom from trauma symptoms is Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT). CPT offers a sequence of 12 sessions, the first 6 of which are considered fundamental. If trauma symptoms abate, use of the protocol can be ended at any point in the sequence.

Inner wisdom

Addressing trauma can feel like too much. At the same, time, the sequencing of the CPT sessions can feel like too little, too slowly, especially if sessions are scheduled once per week. The founders of CPT suggest twice per week sessions as optimal and posit that all 12 sessions might be held in an intensive session, perhaps two days over a weekend. The intensively scheduled sessions might feel like too much, and they would also be enough, and all at once.

Some of the indirect learning and support that in-person CPT counseling sessions offer is missing from telehealth sessions, especially during the stress of a pandemic. With clients’ input, we have discovered that a) assistance with emotion regulation, b) a sense of progress outside of assessment scores, and c) an overview of the process, all in straightforward language, are needed.

Since I define terms and provide links to the content in this post elsewhere, I have provided few links here but have included a list of related resources at the end of the post.

“Inner wisdom” is our in-house term and adaption of “Wise Mind,” a component of the “States of Mind” concept from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) invented by Marsha Linnehan, Ph.D. In sum, the guidance of one’s “inner wisdom” would result from awareness of one’s thoughts and feelings – the content of one’s mind and heart – and from accessing emotion and cognitive structures and functions in the brain.

The content below is expressed in first person. The second person “you” can be perceived as directive and unhelpful.

What do I get from therapy for trauma?

I gain freedom and power.

If something troubling happens today, I am able to kindly – and without judgment – help myself with it.

When a troubling feeling or thought occurs, I can say, “Well, of course you would be feeling that feeling or thinking that thought, given what happened.” In doing so, I perform a profound act of compassion for myself.

What is the process by which one engages in therapy for trauma?

At essence, my intention is to be able to help myself with whatever is happening, whether it be an interior state or an external circumstance.

What is meant by “help myself”?

Help would begin with, kindly and respectfully, becoming aware of my feelings and thoughts and, thus, become able to access my inner wisdom wherein my knowledge, life experience, and skills reside.

Then I would use any or all of these meticulously acquired skills, in potentially most useful order:

  1. Adjust the volume on my inner intensity through self-soothing and attention-shifting so I can regulate the emotion centers of my brain and thus free my prefrontal cortex to think things through.
  2. When I become aware I am replaying the trauma in my mind or dwelling on intrusive thoughts, I very gently shift my attention, often to something that engages my senses and/or accesses my inner knowing. I’m aware that rethinking is like using flashcards to train myself to memorize what alarms and distresses me.
  3. If I am thinking some form of, “Who am I, who I am not, and what did I do or not do to cause this?”, remind myself that reality is complex and dynamic and very little can be definitively identified as causal.
  4. Remind myself that the “just-world hypothesis,”* however unsupportable, is based on my very human longing for things to make sense.
  5. Remind myself that it’s usually my humanity that wishes things were different AND that to increase my chances of effectively helping myself with a current reality, I’ll need to use a reality-based approach.
  6. Ask myself, “Do I have any self-care deficits going on? What can I do to buttress my ability to engage in the awareness process? Do I need food, water, to move a bit? What can I do to help myself feel more steady and strong?”
  7. Identify feelings and differentiate between natural, primary feelings, and thought-generated, secondary feelings.
  8. Ask, “What thoughts am I thinking that might be causing my feelings?”
  9. Among my thoughts, identify and differentiate between facts, beliefs, and hypotheses. (“Hypotheses” are posited to be reality-based vs. belief-based statements generated by one’s inner wisdom that may be truthful, if not verifiably factual.)
  10. Identify problematic patterns of thinking, particularly the “just-world hypothesis.”*
  11. Ask useful questions about my thinking (from an individualized set of questions derived from CPT’s Challenging Questions Worksheet).
  12. Among these questions, ask, “Is there any feeling here that I’m trying not to feel? What is it? Is there any reality here that I’m trying to not think about? What is it? Am I doing something to try to not feel or think? What realities do I need to approach rather than try to protect myself from?”
  13. Accept that humans are not given predictive powers. One’s own actions might have made things better…and they might have made things worse. There is no way to know.
  14. Ask, “Am I thinking in ‘if-thens’? Am I thinking, ‘If only I __________ or if only they __________’?” If so, I recognize I’m thinking I can know the complexity of reality and predict which factors would change which outcomes. I realize I’m just trying to think my way out of feeling sad. I give myself a hug for wishing things could be different.
  15. Then I do activate my prefrontal cortex. It helps me regulate emotions now. I’m also working it like a muscle to increase its power to help me in the future.
  16. Assess probabilities. Start by asking, “What are the odds? 50-50?”
  17. Ask, “What opposites are both true?”
  18. Do a cost-benefit analysis with rank ordering.
  19. Acknowledge family-of-origin issues (FOOI) that may be playing a role in my thinking process, give them a nod but little time, and shift my attention to my hard-won, individually identified values and priorities.
  20. Ask myself, “Let’s say I’m given 100 years on this planet. How would I want to spend them? How about the next 100 minutes? Is this to what I want to give my time? Might I have given this due time?”
  21. Ask myself, “Given these cards I’ve been dealt, how do I want to play them?”
  22. Devise strategies based on my values, priorities, and skills-informed, inner wisdom’s guidance.
  23. Ask, “I’ve consulted my inner wisdom. Is there anyone I might consult who is likely to honor the nuances of withholding judgment, fostering my independence, all the while offering commentary?!”
  24. Make a judgment call and execute the strategies.
  25. Accept outcomes as the best I could do at the time given the data and resources I had.
  26. Return to the opposites-are-both true dialectic of consolidating gains to foster stability AND opening myself to possible instability as I gain new insights and grow.
  27. Continue to monitor beliefs that oppress from without and from within. Become aware of familial, cultural, and societal beliefs that may be so deeply held that they are nearly invisible. Differentiate between those in which I willingly participate to organize society and those that limit me. Jettison the unhelpful beliefs that I can and shift my attention to my values, priorities, and inner knowing.

*”The just-world belief holds that good things happen to good people, that bad things happen to bad people, and that the world should be a fair and just place. This belief emanates from the desire to find an orderly, cause-effect association between an individual’s behavior and the consequences of that behavior…this is a hard-wired, evolutionary need of humans to predict and control events in order to survive.” (CPT manual, page 65)  Further, the just-world hypothesis holds that hard work will be rewarded, bad deeds will be punished, “things happen for a reason,” “what goes around comes around,” and that self, others, and the world should be controllable, orderly, and predictable. In contrast, reality is complex and dynamic. Some occurrences are unforeseeable and have no discernible origin, causality, meaning, or explanation. Ultimately, it is compassion for humans and their aching hearts that is merited.

Last updated 5/21/21

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